The word “comfort” comes from the Latin word which means “strengthen greatly.” We use this word to describe relief from distress more so than strength in our distress.
In Western culture, the majority of us have a variety of “things” that are comfortable. Comfort food. Comfortable shoes. A comfy sweatshirt. Comfortable friendships. Comfortable habits. Comfortable life.
But sometimes that which is of comfort is not all that helpful. Comfortable isolation. The relief of familiar thought about ourselves or others. The comfort of more food. The ease of sleeping in instead of getting up early to exercise.
Discomfort is not typically on our menu of options we gleefully chose for our lives. Yet it is the discomfort that moves us to change, or causes us to do something different with our lives.
Many times it is our comforts that keep us from becoming who God created us to be.
We tend to think about assets in terms of financial perspectives. How do we spend our money? How do we invest/save our money?
These, among others, are questions that every marriage deals with. Even if you’re not asking those questions, you’re still dealing with those questions.
There’s a different kind of asset that we forget to talk about: Emotional assets.
Every relationship has an emotional bank account. You make deposits and withdrawals from that account. As is the case with money, when you run a negative balance, life becomes a stressful grind. Each of us has a tolerance as to how long we can go running a negative balance, both financially and emotionally.
Some marriages live paycheck to paycheck, every day needing some kind of positive experience to keep going. Others have invested well
, and can go for a period of time through emotional debts and be ok.
What is the balance for your relationship’s emotional bank account?