{"id":775,"date":"2018-07-25T05:11:49","date_gmt":"2018-07-25T10:11:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=775"},"modified":"2018-07-31T16:27:44","modified_gmt":"2018-07-31T21:27:44","slug":"perspective-matters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2018\/07\/perspective-matters\/","title":{"rendered":"Perspective Matters"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Our perspectives matter in life, especially in relationships. Usually we see what we want to see, what we are looking for. But, we don&#8217;t have complete control over what we see. There are 3 things that shape our perspective:<\/p>\n<p>1. <b>My Stance<\/b> (what I am conscious of, what is my viewpoint). What is it that you&#8217;re looking for, or not looking for? Sometimes I will have a couple stand at opposite ends of my office to look out the windows on either side of the building. Their backs are towards each other. They have very different objects to look at and tell the other about.<\/p>\n<p>2. <b>My DNA<\/b> (what I&#8217;m predisposed towards). Remember <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_dress\">the dress<\/a>? Is it black\/blue or white\/gold? Turns out, your DNA controls what colors you see. Not everything that we see is our choice to see.<\/p>\n<p>3. <b>My Story<\/b> (what I am unconscious of). We need others to help us see what we&#8217;re looking for, because we&#8217;re unable to see all parts of ourselves. Sometimes we are driven or motivated by what we cannot see.<\/p>\n<p>Fights occur when we think that only one person&#8217;s perspective can be right. The reality is, both perspectives matter (and contain truth!). Trying to fight for who is right gets really messy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Our perspectives matter in life, especially in relationships. Usually we see what we want to see, what we are looking for. 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