{"id":351,"date":"2012-07-18T12:18:40","date_gmt":"2012-07-18T17:18:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=351"},"modified":"2012-07-18T12:18:40","modified_gmt":"2012-07-18T17:18:40","slug":"so-you-think-you-can-dance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2012\/07\/so-you-think-you-can-dance\/","title":{"rendered":"So, You Think You Can Dance?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #c0c0c0;\"><em>(article originally published at Start Marriage Right)<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/07\/so-you-think-you-can-dance-.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-352\" title=\"so-you-think-you-can-dance-\" src=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/07\/so-you-think-you-can-dance-.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"450\" height=\"255\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<pre><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #c0c0c0;\"><em>\r\n<\/em><\/span><\/pre>\n<p><strong><em>I move left, she moves right.<br \/>\n<\/em><em>I go forward, she goes backwards.<br \/>\n<\/em><em>I dip, she bends.<br \/>\n<\/em><em>I swing, she flies.<br \/>\n<\/em><em>We move closer and embrace.<br \/>\n<\/em><em>Butterflies.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a horrible dancer. The term \u201ctwo left feet\u201d has new meaning when applied to my dancing machismo. In the kitchen after work, I\u2019m constantly getting in the way of Stephanie. Part of this is my inability to do two things at once, the other part is my lack of physical fluidity.<\/p>\n<p>Interesting though, our relationship took off on a dance floor. It was New Years eve, and a planned group gathering with friends turned into a quadruple-date that ended up at a swing dance party to ring in the new year. I\u2019d always hated to dance but there was this girl that quickly moved me out of my self-consciousness. My desire to be wherever she was made me the supporter of any and all things swing dancing. This ought to come at no surprise but she loved (and still does) to dance. Me being on the dance floor with her that night created some serious mojo between the two of us. Less than 6 months later, we were honeymooning in Nova Scotia learning a whole new kind of dance.<\/p>\n<p>A friend of mine teaches marriage classes with a ballroom dance instructor. For an hour they sit in a room conversing about sex, fighting, communication and other marital pitfalls. Following the hour of marriage work, they begin the real work: Learning to dance. From what he\u2019s said, the ballroom dancing part is more beneficial for the couples than is the workshop. The reason? Until we actually get up and start acting our parts, no amount of reading, listening, analyzing or planning will create connection.<\/p>\n<p>When you stand on the dance floor with your partner, you have to communicate, someone has to lead, and someone has to follow. It\u2019s amazing to watch a couple\u2019s relationship tendencies come out as they struggle to make the moves on the floor. The woman resists the leadership of the man, she stumbles and they end up apart. The man resists leading, the woman leads and he wilts with shame and sadness. The couple holds each other like they are in Jr. High, neither looking at each other or wanting to be near each other and they end up dancing monotone.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230; continue reading at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.startmarriageright.com\/2012\/07\/so-you-think-you-can-dance\" target=\"_blank\">Start Marriage Right<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(article originally published at Start Marriage Right) I move left, she moves right. I go forward, she goes backwards. I dip, she bends. I swing, she flies. We move closer and embrace. Butterflies. I\u2019m a horrible dancer. The term \u201ctwo left feet\u201d has new meaning when applied to my dancing machismo. 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