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You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better. – Anne Lamott<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So… it’s pretty easy to talk about other people. To see their faults, cracks, damages, and also their giftings, goodness, and success in life. It’s much harder to see our own. (Which is why I think everyone ought to get married and\/or have kids. Marriage and Parenting makes it really difficult to ignore the reflection of yourself. But that’s another topic for another day.)<\/p>\n

It’s hard to talk and write about the stories you have that have been influenced by others without giving too much credit to the other person. What has happened to you, has happened to you. And you’re the only one who can tell the story of what has happened to you.<\/p>\n

You can’t speak for the other person, about their motives or assumptions. It’s not your job to protect others from the impact they or someone else has had on you.\u00a0Your only responsibility is to speak about your experience.<\/p>\n

Not theirs. Yours.<\/p>\n

“How will you respond to what’s happened?” is really the only question that matters. Because the last thing you want to do, is to respond like this:<\/p>\n

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