{"id":1309,"date":"2020-01-26T23:55:00","date_gmt":"2020-01-27T04:55:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1309"},"modified":"2020-01-21T15:13:08","modified_gmt":"2020-01-21T20:13:08","slug":"day-15-a-new-vision","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2020\/01\/day-15-a-new-vision\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 15: A New Vision"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This post is a part of The 15-Day Relationship Challenge. If you\u2019re just now tuning in,\u00a0click here<\/a>\u00a0for the whole series.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A New Mission & Vision<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Welcome to the final day of your 15-day relationship challenge!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I hope that it has been a productive, connecting, and celebratory journey together. You\u2019ve spent some time in your individual stories, in your marriage story, and we\u2019re going to end with spending some time in developing a plan for the future stories you will live.\u00a0Your marriage needs a mission statement. Just like a business, every marriage needs a mission for why it exists and what it hopes to accomplish. If you aim for nothing, you will hit it every time.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A mission statement provides a guiding light in times of distress, confusion, trouble, and glorious moments. Without a clearly defined mission, marriages become lost and aimless in how they attempt to resolve difficulties, and\u00a0accomplish goals. This loss of clarity can (and usually does) lead to couples fighting against each other, instead of for each other.\u00a0
When we don\u2019t set our sights on an achievable destination, we invariably end up at the same place that we were attempting to avoid. So let\u2019s define what you\u2019re aiming for.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Creating your marriage mission statement<\/strong>The first step is to identifying your marriage mission is to brainstorm together. Brainstorming is like free-time on the playground — there are no rules, right or wrong ideas. Let anything that comes to mind be stated and not be judged (even by yourself).\u00a0
Every mission statement needs to have a defined purpose, values, and hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To get those clearly defined, work together on the following questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. What are the opportunities or needs we are passionate about that we want to address?<\/strong>\u00a0(the purpose of the marriage)\u00a0
This could include an internal (family) need or an external (community) need. An example of this purpose for our family is hosting. Stephanie and I love to host. This takes shape in having friends over for dinner, out-of-town guests stay for a weekend, or having other families come over and enjoy good food, drink, and conversations. We see a need for fellow travelers to have a place of respite. We want to create a home that is a respite for our family, as well as others.\u00a0
Other purposes could include:\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n