{"id":1233,"date":"2020-01-09T14:10:00","date_gmt":"2020-01-09T19:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1233"},"modified":"2020-01-08T17:18:22","modified_gmt":"2020-01-08T22:18:22","slug":"the-problem-is-not-the-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2020\/01\/the-problem-is-not-the-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"The Problem Is Not The Problem"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>The problem of our life is almost never the real problem.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The real problem is what we are doing in response to our problems.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We blame. Point fingers. Yell. Throw things at others, words mostly.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We cheat, and steal, and lie. We manipulate. Shade the truth. We get hyper vigilant and vow to never let \u201cit\u201d happen again.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Demands replace invitations. We set insidious traps for others with leading questions, outright killing any humble curiosity.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We run away (Ignorance is bliss, right?). We deny reality, and fashion a better fantasy.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These are the real problems. We don\u2019t respond appropriately to being disappointed or hurt. And this compounds the issue. Now instead of having one problem to deal with, we add our inappropriate response into the mix, and it becomes one giant mess.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What problem are you avoiding?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>______________________________________ <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The problem of our life is almost never the real problem.\u00a0 The real problem is what we are doing in response to our problems.\u00a0 We blame. Point fingers. Yell. Throw things at others, words mostly.\u00a0 We cheat, and steal, and lie. We manipulate. Shade the truth. 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