What were you like when you were 13 years old? How were you as a kid when conflict happened in the family? Where did you go and what did you do to feel safe? What was your role in the family surrounding conflict?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes when conflict happens, we can become like a teenager again. We freeze up, fight back, run away, blame, stonewall, scream, mope, depress, and cry. I think everyone would agree that a thirteen year old does not do all that great as husband or wife. The reality is we all act like a teenager every now and then.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What some 13 year olds need is a little bit of TLC, which is probably what you or your spouse needs when the \u201cinner teen\u201d shows up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try this: Get a picture of when you were 13, have it printed in a wallet sized print, and put it in your pocket. Do the same for your spouse. The next time you\u2019re in a conflict, grab the picture of your 13-year old self (not your spouses picture!), and hold it up to your spouse.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Talk to them about what\u2019s going on with you. What does your \u201cteenage self\u201d need in this moment? What don\u2019t \u201cthey\u201d need to say or do?\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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