{"id":1137,"date":"2019-12-10T05:37:00","date_gmt":"2019-12-10T10:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1137"},"modified":"2019-12-07T10:03:14","modified_gmt":"2019-12-07T15:03:14","slug":"qbq-the-question-behind-the-question","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/12\/qbq-the-question-behind-the-question\/","title":{"rendered":"QBQ: The Question Behind the Question"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Book Review for QBQ.<br>\u00a0<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"\ufffc (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/QBQ-Question-Behind-Practicing-Accountability\/dp\/0399152334\/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2G5F9QLT453IA&amp;keywords=qbq+the+question+behind+the+question&amp;qid=1575729965&amp;sprefix=bbq%2Caps%2C195&amp;sr=8-1\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"120\" height=\"186\" class=\"wp-image-1138\" style=\"width: 120px;\" src=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Screen-Shot-2019-12-07-at-8.44.11-AM-e1575729925988.png\" alt=\"\"><\/a><br><strong>The Premise<\/strong>: If you\u2019re asking the wrong questions, you\u2019re not going to be able to solve the problems correctly. Personal accountability is achieved when we ask \u201cwhat\u201d and \u201chow,\u201d not \u201cwhy\u201d and \u201cwho.\u201d Marriages thrive when those involved take responsibility by asking the correct questions about their situation. Ask,\u00a0\u201chow can I solve \u2026\u201d instead of \u201cwhy did this happen.\u201d\u00a0<br><br><strong>My Take<\/strong>: This is an easy-to-read book that has great applications for our relationships. He really nails it by addressing the issues of personal accountability. As a culture, we\u2019re far too consumeristic and \u201cme-centric.\u201d This leads to feeling like a victim and not taking responsibility for our actions. It\u2019s just over 100 pages, with many chapters taking up less than two pages. Pick it up and read a few chapters, set it down. Read it out loud with your wife or husband. Spend fifteen minutes talking about it in the evenings.\u00a0<br><br><strong>Application for Marriages<\/strong>: This is\u00a0not a marriage 101 book, rather it\u2019s a way of thinking about how and what we do in our relationships. There\u2019s not a lot of practical advice for issues that would arise in a marriage, rather it helps to frame the approach we take in our response to these issues. Too often we get sidetracked with the implications of the questions or statements made to us. Instead we need to focus of what is behind the question or statement.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>______________________________<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Book Review for QBQ.\u00a0The Premise: If you\u2019re asking the wrong questions, you\u2019re not going to be able to solve the problems correctly. 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Ask,\u00a0\u201chow can I solve [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1138,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rop_custom_images_group":[],"rop_custom_messages_group":[],"rop_publish_now":"initial","rop_publish_now_accounts":[],"rop_publish_now_history":[],"rop_publish_now_status":"pending","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[1],"tags":[252,251,47,113,98],"class_list":["post-1137","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life_process","tag-advice","tag-book-review","tag-books","tag-relationship","tag-responsibility"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>QBQ: The Question Behind the Question &#8212; Five Minute Sherpa<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/12\/qbq-the-question-behind-the-question\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"QBQ: The Question Behind the Question &#8212; Five Minute Sherpa\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Book Review for QBQ.\u00a0The Premise: If you\u2019re asking the wrong questions, you\u2019re not going to be able to solve the problems correctly. 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