{"id":1102,"date":"2019-11-28T04:12:58","date_gmt":"2019-11-28T09:12:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1102"},"modified":"2019-11-26T09:24:59","modified_gmt":"2019-11-26T14:24:59","slug":"day-4-marriage-thanksgiving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/11\/day-4-marriage-thanksgiving\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 4: Marriage &#038; Thanksgiving"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>In light of this being the American week of Thanksgiving, I\u2019ll be writing about the power of gratitude in marriage, and the encouragement it gives to relationships.\u00a0<\/em><br><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/11\/day-1-marriage-thanksgiving\/\" target=\"_blank\">Day 1: The Gratitude Jar<\/a><br><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/11\/day-2-marriage-thanksgiving\/\" target=\"_blank\">Day 2: Gratitude Prayer<\/a><br><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1098\" target=\"_blank\">Day 3: Gratitude Letter<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A Touch of Gratitude<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Often the way our brain works can get in the way of receiving verbal thanks from someone we are close to. Our emotions aren\u2019t processed with words, they are more closely processed with non-verbal intuitions. Something akin to describing the color \u201cred\u201d to a blind person.&nbsp;<br><br>Sometimes the disconnect in our relationships is beyond what words can heal. We can say a hundred times what we\u2019re thankful for about the other person, but they might not cognitively be able (from a brain functioning standpoint) to metabolize what those words mean. Enter touch.&nbsp;<br><br>I\u2019m not just talking about physical touch, I\u2019m also talking about the touch of kindness.&nbsp;<br><br>Yes, touch is primarily associated with our skin, but we most often touch people first with our eyes. Proverbs 30:17 says \u201cThe eyes are the window to the soul.\u201d Our eyes tell the story before our bodies or words ever start following suit.<br><br>Think about it: What would your wife\/husband say is the story of your first touch in the morning? Evening?<br><br>Touching with gratitude through our eyes involves delight, curiosity, kindness, warmth, openness, vulnerability, and invitation. The touch of invitation will break down the barriers of coldness, resentment, and hurt more so than any \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d (or worse, \u201cget over it\u201d) will ever be able to do.<br><br>Offer gratitude to your wife\/husband today with your eyes. And if it doesn\u2019t \u201cwork,\u201d stop trying to get it to work, and just offer the gift of gratitude with your eyes &#8230; and&nbsp;<em>then<\/em>&nbsp;watch what happens.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>______________________________<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In light of this being the American week of Thanksgiving, I\u2019ll be writing about the power of gratitude in marriage, and the encouragement it gives to relationships.\u00a0Day 1: The Gratitude JarDay 2: Gratitude PrayerDay 3: Gratitude Letter A Touch of Gratitude Often the way our brain works can get in the way of receiving verbal [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":823,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"rop_custom_images_group":[],"rop_custom_messages_group":[],"rop_publish_now":"initial","rop_publish_now_accounts":[],"rop_publish_now_history":[],"rop_publish_now_status":"pending","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[13,12,1],"tags":[235,87,31,230,238],"class_list":["post-1102","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-communication","category-couples","category-life_process","tag-blessing","tag-gratitude","tag-sex","tag-thanksgiving","tag-touch"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.7 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Day 4: Marriage &amp; Thanksgiving &#8212; Five Minute Sherpa<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Touch is primarily associated in regards to what we do with our skin. 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