{"id":1024,"date":"2019-11-04T14:20:41","date_gmt":"2019-11-04T19:20:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1024"},"modified":"2019-11-04T11:26:02","modified_gmt":"2019-11-04T16:26:02","slug":"pressure-treated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/11\/pressure-treated\/","title":{"rendered":"Pressure Treated Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Pressure shows up two ways in relationships: Couples who put pressure on each other, and couples who have been have been pressure treated together. It\u2019s the difference between an insecure relationship and a secure one.<br><br>Insecure relationships put a lot of pressure to \u201csay or get it right\u201d because the individuals aren\u2019t yet good at taking care of each other. If one fails to \u201cget it right\u201d it\u2019s known there won\u2019t be much grace available. So they have to get it right, or bad things will happen. These relationships are marked by actions like tiptoeing around each other, avoidance of conflict, and a feeling of fear and shame. This is kind of like building a deck with untreated lumber. It\u2019ll be fine until the fair weather is replaced with foul weather.<br><br>Secure relationships don\u2019t have as much pressure to get it right, because they have gone through the \u201cpressure treating process\u201d from another source other than each other. This process is different for everyone. It could be the <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"death (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2010\/07\/marriage-the-antidote-to-loss\/\" target=\"_blank\">death<\/a> of a loved one, therapy, mentoring, a common enemy, shared goal, mutually beneficial purpose together, or a surrender to marriage and God. Being pressure treated produces grace, mercy, patience, forgiveness, fighting for (not against), and most importantly: Belief in each other. When foul weather comes, pressure treated relationships stay strong and true.\u00a0<br><br><em>What type of relationship do you have? <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pressure shows up two ways in relationships: Couples who put pressure on each other, and couples who have been have been pressure treated together. It\u2019s the difference between an insecure relationship and a secure one. 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