{"id":855,"date":"2019-07-05T05:22:22","date_gmt":"2019-07-05T10:22:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=855"},"modified":"2019-09-30T08:51:47","modified_gmt":"2019-09-30T13:51:47","slug":"wildflowers-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/07\/wildflowers-of-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Wildflowers of Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The great philosopher Forrest Gump famously said, &#8220;life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you&#8217;re going to get.&#8221; The great thing about those chocolates is that you can bite into them, and if you don&#8217;t like what you got, you can choose another one.<\/p>\n<p>Many people think something similar about marriage, too. If I don&#8217;t like the flavor, I&#8217;ll get rid of it and get a new one. I wrote last week about life being like a <a href=\"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2018\/08\/garden-of-life\/\">garden<\/a>, and the similarities between the two. You have to prepare, plant, tend, water, weed, prune, pick, and a host of other actions for a garden to grow. Gump was right with his assessment about life.<\/p>\n<p>A similar metaphor for marriage is wildflowers. If you go to a flea market, garden shop, or any other store that sells garden seeds, you&#8217;ll find a package of seeds titled: Wildflowers. There will be a picture on the package showing you what it is that the seeds produce. Different than that of any other seed package (corn, beans, or other flowers), you don&#8217;t really know what the contents will produce. The only way you can know is to buy the package, and go plant the seeds.<\/p>\n<p>Marriage is just like this. We can think we know what flowers will grow from the package, but we can&#8217;t know until we marry, plant, tend, and grow the flower garden. The big challenge is when we get the results: The flowers bloom and sometimes they aren&#8217;t what we wanted, expected, or feel like we deserved.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s at this point that a person&#8217;s character begins to show up. What will you do with getting something that you didn&#8217;t want? How will you handle the loss, disappointment, anger, hurt, and resentment? Will you tear up the garden, destroy all the flowers\/plants that have grown? To what extent will you try and control what has happened to you?<\/p>\n<p>The beauty of marriage is that it reveals who we really are. We don&#8217;t need a host populated world like the show\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.hbo.com\/westworld\">Westworld<\/a> to show us who we are. Marriage does that well enough on it&#8217;s own. 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