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Next time this happens in your relationship, offer grace by placing your hand on their shoulder or chest near their heart and say, \u201cI don\u2019t believe that you intended to harm me, and that you do love and care for me.\u201d Watch what happens next.&nbsp;<br><br>The second is gratitude. As a whole, we are not that grateful of a people. Instead, we are an entitled people. Sadly, I rarely encounter a couple that genuinely like each other. Most couples remember liking each other, but they\u2019ve long since forgotten that part of their lives. Entitlements will destroy your relationship \u2014 Gratitude will repair and heal your relationship.&nbsp;<br><br>Practice giving thanks to your spouse, for even the smallest of items.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>\u201cThank you for smiling at me this morning.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li>\u201cThank you for sitting next to me on the couch.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li>\u201cThank you for turning off the TV and listening to my tough day.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li>\u201cThank you for marrying me.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li>&#8220;Thank you for smiling at me when I came home.&#8221;<\/li><li>\u201cThank you \u2026 &lt;fill in the blank&gt;\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;<br>It doesn\u2019t take a lot to change the tune of your day, or your spouse\u2019s day. 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