{"id":1076,"date":"2019-12-02T05:08:43","date_gmt":"2019-12-02T10:08:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/?p=1076"},"modified":"2019-11-22T15:52:49","modified_gmt":"2019-11-22T20:52:49","slug":"when-in-conflict-take-your-shoes-off","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/samuelrainey.com\/blog\/2019\/12\/when-in-conflict-take-your-shoes-off\/","title":{"rendered":"When in Conflict: Take Your Shoes Off"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>The next time you find yourself in conflict with your spouse, take your shoes off. Seriously. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Conflict in your marriage is holy ground. It\u2019s where our life story shows up at a primal, non-verbal level. Our bodies remember things our words can&#8217;t describe. We offer silence and respect when entering a place of reverence. Conflict is this place of reverence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Taking your shoes off puts your feet in bare contact with the physical ground, and terrain. 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